Thursday, July 1, 2010

How Heavy Is Your Bag

One of my teachers had each one of us bring a clear plastic bag and a sack of potatoes. For every person we’d refuse to forgive in our life, we were told to choose a potato, write on it the name and date, and put it in the plastic bag. Some of our bags, as you can imagine, were quite heavy.

We were then told to carry this bag with us everywhere for one week, putting it beside our bed at night, on the car seat when driving, next to our desk at work.

The hassle of lugging this around with us made it clear what a weight we were carrying spiritually, and how we had to pay attention to it all the time to not forget, and keep leaving it in embarrassing places.

Naturally, the condition of the potatoes deteriorated to a nasty slime. This was a great metaphor for the price we pay for keeping our pain and heavy negativity!

Too often we think of forgiveness as a gift to the other person, and while that’s true, it clearly is also a gift for ourselves!

So the next time you decide you can’t forgive someone, ask yourself ... Isn’t MY bag heavy enough?

And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him.

-- Author Unknown

4 comments:

Steven said...

"To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness."

-- Robert Muller

Steven Hong said...

To quote Joshua L Liebman: “We achieve inner health only through forgiveness - the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves.”

Anonymous said...

There's a saying.... Forgive & Forget. However, said is much easier than doing it. It takes a CHOICE to forgive but not forget. Once the CHOOICE of Forgiveness is made, you have been set free. However, you can never forget but again, it is a choice to use it as a lesson in life, a valuable lesson :)

Anonymous said...

Also heard from someone who said one can NEVER forget (if you truly understand how the mind and perception works). He followed on to say, try forgetting something, anything. The moment that so-called forgotten something or anything is brought up, guess what, it is not forgotten. How interesting..